It must have been a really staggering red sunset in Palos de la Frontera back in 1492. It was the day when Christopher Columbus set off to find a new sea route to India. The first mission led by a Genoa born Italian took 7 months and did not result in exploring a direct path to the Southern Asia (it was later done by yet another explorer Vasco Da Gamma). Columbus did discover something different, his travel ended up with finding a wholly new continent – America. The truth is that it is still unclear whether the sailor was aware of his remarkable achievement until he died. It might seem that he got lost a little bit yet he managed not to come short out of it. Here comes the question: can you get lost if you don’t know where are you going? And nevertheless, the people continue to talk that they feel they are not on a correct path.
It is nearly impossible to avoid, one day you wake up and you first thought after opening the eyes is: I feel terribly lost with the life, what to do now? It might be because of a frustrating job, a heavily broken heart or things like the past choices we regrettably made. There are hundreds of individual factors that simply cause us unhappy and sad.
I am not special, I have felt this way several times in my life. Unquestionably, the first such a feeling hit me like a thunder when I was 12 years old. It was the time my mother decided to move abroad to the United States, so unexpectedly, so quickly, so painfully…
One day she was present, joking around and having fun, the next one – she was just gone. If I could have had a chance, I would have definitely chosen a different time for this turnaround. But I didn’t, so didn’t my father who had to raise two really embittered kids. As the many years have gone by, I have become thankful that it ended like that. If it hadn’t been the way it had, I would have never been able to see how lucky I am to have a father like my old man. Such an outstanding person he really is. Even though I was put in the storm, I recovered being stronger than before.
I believe it might be good to get lost for a while, it means that you are moving, and once you are moving you might be one step from finding your true path, a journey of your life. Whenever you feel like that, please remember that there are numerous of things that can get back you on a proper track.
1. Accept it!
Never force yourself to apparently act like it is ok, you have a right not to be. You have a right to have reasons to feel like shit. It doesn’t mean your life is doomed and that you will never find yourself over. It simply means you are going through an incubation phase and transformation. Just doesn’t let you get stuck in that moment for a longer than it is necessary.
2. Don’t be afraid of changes
Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. Look at this as a chance to think over your life, your choices. Wisely decide what and how you can change things that simply make you gloomy. Go out for a walk, grab your mp3 player with relaxing music, a piece of paper and a pen. Write down all of the ideas that come up to your mind. Revise them the next morning, I am pretty sure there will be even 2 or 3 worth putting in life.
3. Pick up sport
And I do not mean to go for a 20-minute jogging. I want you to go hard, to compete with someone. I want you to step out of your comfort zone. I want to grind and hustle, to sweat and bleed. Why would anyone sane do that? Prove yourself that you can do things, you would not imagine you could do a year ago. Prove yourself how your mind and body strong really are. It will help you regain the much-needed self-awareness and self-confidence.
4. Don’t be ashamed of emotions.
If you need to cry – do it so. If you require an honest conversation with someone close to you – ask for help. Trust me or not, in 99% of situations, you won’t be rejected. Remember that it is you that make the most difficult choices in your life, but there nothing wrong with knowing others views on the subject.
5. Life is ever changing.
Possibly you feel a sense of loneliness or being wasted because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you. Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we tend to react to that change. It is fine that you are not who you used to be.
6. Get a passion
Your newly adopted hobby might be later transformed into a passion of your life that can make you a really good amount of money. From my perspective, my passions are what keep on a right track, these things give my life a whole lot of colors and make me feel accomplished and fulfilled while I am getting better at something.
7. Be patient – Rome was not built in a day!
I know that hard times might seem to be lasting forever. But there is an accurate saying “After a storm comes a calm”, as simple as it sounds – it is just stupidly true. Life is a cycle of these positive and negative moments, but both of them have something in common. They make us more and more experienced, more and more ready for what is awaiting us in the future. If you have been properly working on something, never give up, it will pay in the day you wouldn’t expect.
A sense of feeling lost can in many ways be remarkably painful and challenging to deal with at best. However, these emotions can also assist as a catalyst for change. Above anything and everything, cherish your mental well being and do not underestimate its worth. I still struggle, I feel lost time from time. I have moaned and I have felt embarrassed. I have felt like a failure and I have felt pity for myself and from other people. But most importantly, I always believe in the fact that life is truly marvelous, and with a good amount of work put in it, might be full of wonderful moments and vivid memories. Just help it a bit.
Enough my words… This poem is a perfect summary of what I wanted to say:
If by Rudyard Kipling
“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”
This poem always touches me to the heartstrings
this TED movie is a must-watch for everyone on a verge of getting lost in life