Rome was not built in a day, unsurprisingly, I have heard these words countless times – they have never worked for me... I am impatience by nature, I hate waiting and feeling of anticipation. Have you ever got a message from someone stating that “I will tell you something important later?” this is how exactly you can get me dander up. I guess it is one of my biggest flaws. I am totally aware of it and I have been trying to get rid of it for my whole life. Nothing has helped. And you know what? One day, I will have to come to terms with that fact. But I beg you please, do not be like me, it is definitely worth to be able to gently wait for Santa Claus to come or your dreamed-of holidays. Just remember to keep yourself distracted.
I have to be honest, I completely love the definition of patience from the English dictionary, which is: “Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, difficulty, or annoyance without getting angry or upset.” Can you imagine the existence without delays, difficulties or annoyance? Rather not. Sadly, I would have trouble to recall a single day when I did not have to cope with of these three. Seems like an everyday struggle, doesn’t it? The choice is simple, you either accept being patience or get frustrated and irritated every time it happens (did someone call my name?).
We live in a world that turns around in a way too fast pace. These days, it is hard to catch up everything we are obligated to. Even though some folks might declare they own their lives in 100% – they really do not. Give me a call if you have never got stuck in a traffic jam heading to the office or forgot an umbrella on, what had previously looked like a sunny day. There is always a portion of ordinary unpredictability. Patience is the openness to random events. Patience permits for relaxation and the appreciation of each moment. Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to convince you that you can sit back and watch your life go by. It is the art of letting go in the second it is required to.
If you are a Star Wars obsessive fan, just like me, you must remember the sentence that Yoda told young Luke Skywalker during his training “Patience you must have my young padawan”. If Master Yoda states, you just have to agree. The truth is impatience does not improve your situation, it worsens it a lot. You will never get back time wasted on furiously walking circles in a waiting-room, but as well as doing that, you could take a few breaths in and bring out an interesting book to have a little delightful read. Consider impatience as the opportunity cost of a choice, meaning, things you could have done, once you hadn’t been losing your time on pointless anger and frustration.
I can say that today I was pretty lucky to get cemented in a bus on my return trip from work and gym. I was listening to a StarTalk Radio podcast where Neil DeGrasse Tyson was hosting Michio Kaku, Seth Shostak and few other physicians. The wise gentlemen were having a game of describing the physics theories in just twenty seconds, and what is best, it had to be understandable for an Average Joe. The sentences they were using were just hilarious, they seemed to be having so much fun while doing that. So had I listening to the hosts. Unquestionably, If I had let myself got boiled up, I would have missed the podcast while looking nervously at my watch. This is just one example of how the patience helped to make something helpful out of the given circumstances.
I am pretty sure that we can state that patience is not an art of waiting, but a skill of keeping a good attitude and acting properly while waiting.
On the other hand, it is the technology that got us indifferent. Classic maps have become out-of-date, substituted by GPS and Google maps which audibly detail each turn on the road. We don’t need spatial orientation craft anymore; we have machines. Another example of common impatience is the fact, that during the research most people tend to choose a smaller gratification momentarily then wait a while to be presented with bigger one. The reason why? Our emotional brain has trouble seeing into the future, even though our logical brains see the obvious consequences of our direct response. Our emotional brain wants to obtain dessert, have a cigarette, and book a flight to Costa Brava. Our logical brain wants to sustain a healthy weight, quit smoking and save money for retirement. It is a clash of the two and our world is pushing for the former.
Patience has always been seen as a desired quality, it has been presented as a goal to achieve in nearly every religion. It is one of the Seventh Heavenly Virtues. The bible states “Forbearance that comes from moderation; enduring the seemingly unbearable with patience and dignity.
Building a sense of peaceful stability and harmony rather than conflict, hostility, and antagonism; resolving issues and arguments respectfully, as opposed to resorting to anger and fighting.”Quite on a spot, isn’t?
Patience is not an escape but rather a form of preparation. Humans are most impatient with themselves, expecting growth without leaving time for maturity, expecting perfection from imperfect beings, expecting comfort without effort, waiting for success rather than working for it.
I have a piece of advice, can we all treat the patience as the moment of appreciating your life as it is, looking at the bright sides and contemplating the surroundings?
I just want to leave with a quote and a song. The song that reminds you, that all we need is just a little patience.
“Said, woman, take it slow
And things will be just fine
You and I’ll just use a little patience
Said, sugar, take the time
‘Cause the lights are shining bright
You and I’ve got what it takes
To make it, We won’t fake it,
I’ll never break it
’cause I can’t take it”